A Person of Influence

One of the greatest things about becoming a person of influence is that you actually get to see the lives of others change before your eyes. What is greater is that the person whom you influence becomes an influencer to another person or persons.

Here's what I got from reading a book:

• modeling integrity with everyone you come into contact with
• nurturing the people in your life to make them feel valued
• showing faith in others so that they believe in themselves
• listening to them so that you can build your relationship with them
• understanding them so that you can help them achieve their dreams
• enlarging them in order to increase their potential
• navigating them through life's difficulties until they can do it themselves
• connecting with them so that you can move them to a higher level
• empowering them to become the person they were created to be
• reproducing other leaders so that your influence continues to grow through others

To influence others does not mean that you have to be in the highest position in your company to touch others lives. It does not mean that you need more money to influence others.

The idea of influencing others happens everyday in our lives. When we get to sell something to someone we influence that person to buy the product we are selling. A simple talk might turn to be a new insight to another thus creating an impact to that person. It can change her life or ruin her life as well.

Start to be a positive influencer today.

What I've learned from blogging

I'm gonna answer straight to the point here. What I have learned from blogging is that I can get views of other people when it comes to marketing, thoughts or about life, loving and all other stuff. Most of the time what we've learned from our parents or in school will never be felt unless you are in a situation most likely similar to what our parents and teachers told us.

Another blog that I like and I know I will like this blog because it has a very catchy title. "How to Change the World" by Guy Kawasaki. Read his blog and you'll say I'm right.

Early Morning Routine

I woke up a little late from my usual time. Reason for that is because I have goosebumps in my head. I was in bed early but there are some people living in the house and they were excited to make baked macaroni what can I do they are happy doing it.

I didn't eat breakfast but I had coffee in the office. Smell of the coffee makes me hungry for more of it. Bitter coffee and you put some creamer to it. A little sugar and pour some hot water. When you start stirring it the smell of that blended coffee, creamer and sugar would come out. The least you can say is ummmmm..... Smells like yummy.

You would slowly sip it because you know it's hot. I don't know exactly how to describe the taste but it is really good. They say coffee is good but I say coffee in the morning is great.

My coffee today is not as black as the coffee should be. In the capital times, we call it, Instant Coffee. Oh well, I don't have that black coffee now but I still got a cup of coffee.

What are you waiting for, got get one cup of coffee for yourself.

Teddy Bear

I never thought that I would fall for a Teddy Bear. We don't have bears in the Philippines. But we do have stuffed teddy bears. What I'm talking about is that my real teddy bear is a human. I haven't seen him yet but I know for sure I love that man. I'm not talking about my knight or some kinda fairy tales and happy ever after stuff. He's just my teddy.

I never ever get to trust someone before. This time, I trusted him a lot. It seems like I'm connected to him even if he lives a thousand miles away from me. He's just near me. Every time I feel that there's something that had happened, I don't show it often but there is really something happened to him. I would know if he's sick or not. I would know if he's sad or not. I would know if he's happy or not.

Call it insanity. Call it boring. Call it stupidity in some degree. I call it happiness and lovin'.

Trust me, whatever burden there is on your shoulders, you never thought you've done and passed it all.

You Could Not Please Everyone

(Bato bato sa langit ang tamaan huwag magalit!)

It was a great day when suddenly I've heard a comment regarding a working girl. The comment that I've heard was that there were some old things and they assumed it was the property of the girl. I knew that girl because we talked often. She's single, supporting her family, paying the bills, and she's earning just enough. I know she can buy some new things for her but if only the person who commented such things would have to consider that there might be something else and she might have wrongly assumed such accusations. I asked the girl, "Hey! How are you?", she said, "I'm not feeling good". I asked again, "Why? Is it something about yesterday?", she said, "Yeah. It's not mine. It was my sister's things. I didn't know she left it there and I..." I interrupted her by saying, "You don't have to explain. I already know even without you telling me."

There are times when you are not doing anything and you know it concerns you, people would make a comment. We all know everyone has limitations. She strives to do what is best for her family than for herself. Even if it's hers or not, we don't have the right to say rude words to her. She's human like us. She's working 12 hours just to have enough income for herself and for her family.

I know that shelter, food and clothing are the priority but if in her case, she has shelter, she has a little clothing and she has to work on 6 times a week to buy food. For me, I'd rather go to buying my food as priority amongst the three than the clothing. If I don't eat I won't be able to do my work.

You can never please everyone nor you can't serve two masters at the same time. It'll be more about what you can do and say to that person so that she or he can be inspired to dream more and be able to achieve what she deserves to achieve.

Say it nice and simple. It doesn't mean that if you were able to do more and buy more than that person even if you don't have that much of money like her doesn't give you the right to just say it bluntly. Be human, act human.

What is Blogging?

That's a nice question. It would really bring out the brain out of me. I don't really know the answer.

Honestly, my purpose why I blog is that I can shout out what's on my mind. Blogging is like writing down my diary. Before, I love pieces of papers and then I would write down my thoughts on that paper. Sooner, I've realized I got so many notes on the wall and up to the ceiling for my crazy habit. I also love writing my friends too but I don't get to mail it to them. At my desk, in the office, I have a lot of post it on my table, on my LCD monitor and everywhere else.

One day, one person introduced me to blogging. I said, "When did this come out?" "Am I really that homo sapient that I don't know that there came blogging?"

Literally, I was a little shocked but I got to keep poise and pretend I know something. Really, I DON'T KNOW A THING! Here I am, love to do a blog. Most of the time, when I don't have anything else to do, I do blogging.

For me, the answer to that question is that blogging is a habit. It is a habit on writing down a shout out wherein other people would read and know what's on your mind even if they don't know you personally. Blogging is a part of someone's life, wherein letting out of what's on that person's mind is some vitamin to others who get attracted to it or addicted to it. It is a life to others whose love of flowers, of cars, of landscapes, or of anything that is dear to them like family, friends, lovers. It is actually anything you want to share or anything you want others to know. That's blogging. It's not a fad for me maybe for others.

I hope you would start your blog soon. You can link your blog with mine.

Secrets on Moving On: Lesson 3

People Think Failure is Avoidable

Everybody fails and commit mistakes. It's part of being human.

Rules of Being Human:

1. You will learn lessons.
2. There are no mistakes - only lessons
3. The lesson is repeated until it is learned
4. If you don't learn the easy lesson, they get harder.
5. You'll know you've learned a lesson when you've noticed you've changed your actions to such situation

People Think Failure is our Enemy

People try to avoid it but it'll never go away. It's not a plague or something. Funny thing is that, there should be adversity in order to create success. If you analyze that, failure is like a vitamin which is good.

When we give ourselves permission to fail, we at the same time give ourselves permission to excel. - Eloise Ristad

People Think Failure is Final or it's Permanent

Making mistakes doesn't mean that it will put mark on you. No matter how dramatically turned out to be a huge mistakes there will always be a room for success.

Look at Coca-Cola. Before, they've tried to run out the classic Coca-Cola for something they thought as better, the New Coke. But it was a huge mistake, with that mistake it cost the company about $100 million. People hated the New Coke. The strategy that they've thought will help them increase again the sales after its rival, Pepsi, has taken the lead in the beverage industry. So what's a company got to do? They've brought back the Classic Coca-Cola. Ultimately it made them stronger. The whole action, or mistake, ended up positively.

We get paid to produce results. We don't get paid to be right.

- Roberto Goizueta, CEO Coca-Cola Company

Every person's life is filled with mistakes and negative experiences. Take note of this:

Errors become mistakes
when we perceive them and respond to them incorrectly

Mistakes become failures
when we continually respond to them incorrectly

For those who fail forward are able to see errors and negative experiences as a regular part of our lives, learn from them and then they've moved on. They persevere and persistent on what they do in order to achieve their purpose in life.

Great minds have purposes; others have wishes. Little minds are subdued by misfortunes; but great minds rise above them

- Washington Irving

Reality is that in everyone has a dream and the realization of that dream lead through the land of failure and it stood firmly between every human and that goal to achieve the dream. The process is never easy. Failure is simply a price we pay to achieve success.

Failure is really a matter of conceit. People don't work hard because, in their conceit, they imagine they'll succeed without ever making an effort. Most people believe that they'll wake up some day and find themselves rich. Actually, they've got it half right, because eventually they do wake up.

- Thomas Edison

The Impossible Question

Whenever I attend a leadership seminar and this speaker would ask the listeners: "If the possibility of failure were erased, what would your attempt to achieve?"


To me, that was an intriguing question. At that time it prompted me to look ahead to life's possibilities. I can do this and that if there would be no failure at all. I can be a CEO in less than a month. Wow! That would be great. But then one day I realized that it was really a bad question. Why? It is a bad question because it takes me to thinking the wrong track. I would think that there is no such thing as failure. I believe, with what I've been through, there is no achievement when there is no failure. Life would suck big time.


The question should be: If your perception of and response to failure were changed, what would you attempt to achieve?


I don't deny that in anyone's life there is always that obstacles that hinders us to get to something. Whatever they are, it doesn't matter. What does matter is that your life can change if you're willing to look at failure differently. You have the potential to overcome any problems, mistakes, or misfortunes. All you hat to do is learn to fail and embrace failure. You got to learn to fail forward.

Secrets to Moving On: Lesson 2

Motto: I would rather try nothing great and succeed than try something great and risk failure

Don’t-Dare-Try-It-People

1. They RESIST opportunities
2. They RATIONALIZE their responsibilities
3. They REHEARSE impossibilities
4. They RAIN on enthusiasm
5. They REVIEW their inadequacies
6. They RECOIL at the failure of others
7. They REJECT the personal cost involved
8. They REPLACE goals with pleasure
9. They REJOICE that they have not failed
10. They REST before they finish
11. They RESIST leadership
12. They REMAIN unchanged
13. They REPLAY the problems
14. They RETHINK their commitment
15. They RESERVE their decisions

Motto: I would rather try something great and fail than try nothing great and succeed.

Don’t-Dare-Miss-It-People

1. They FIND opportunities.
2. They FINISH their responsibilities
3. They FEED on impossibilities
4. They FAN the flame of enthusiasm
5. They FACE their inadequacies
6. They FIGURE out why others failed
7. They FINANCE the cost into their lifestyle
8. They FIND pleasure in the goal
9. They FEAR futility, not failure
10. They FINISH before they rest
11. They FOLLOW leaders
12. They FORCE change
13. They FISH for solutions
14. They FULFILL their commitments
15. They FINALIZE their decision

Which one are you?