Lessons 102

I don't know why new friends, former classmates, old friends and etc would come to ask me the same questions again and again. Why do you need to work so hard? And how do you manage to be on the clock 16-18hours daily?

I've always been dreaming of running my own company ever since. I told myself once, maybe this is what I always wanted to do in the future or maybe this is where my skills and my approach to life leads me to be doing for forever.

There were a lot of sacrifices and the other wonderful part of doing it is being able to help myself achieve and get things I've always wanted, and give what my family needs.

I don't earn that much but slowly I'm getting there and I know that. I have great confidence in what I do and I take pride in what I do.

With all my hardships, I've been through ups and downs and I've cried, I've lost, I've invested again and then again I've lost but it doesn't make me decide to quit. I've did what I thought is right. I don't know if I have stepped on someone. There is one thing I'm sure of not getting is finding myself a man and settling down.

I don't regret it but it made me think especially when I'm alone. I also didn't get to be that outgoing with a lot of people. But I do spend a lot of time online.

I can't have both worlds that could and would make me happy. I can't have everything I always wanted. In the first place, I know I can't be forever happy but somehow I still find happiness although not the everlasting type.

I don't know if I've been a good daughter or a good sister. All I know is I am being me and I worked hard to get to where I am.

Invading Privacy..?

Last night was boring. I surfed the internet just to find some entertaining stuff for my sleepy eyes. I have to make sure that sleeping is not an option during 10pm because I have work to do. Relaxing a little bit and slowly typing down someone's name on Google.

He's not that good looking but he has something. I don't know why but he's a total package. Although for some girls like me, daydreaming and pictures and news about him on the internet is more than enough, especially for females like me who couldn't get a chance of flirting with him.

I am not sure if that article is true or whatever. I just want to say something about privacy.

Wikipedia describes privacy as is the ability of an individual or group to seclude themselves or information about themselves and thereby reveal themselves selectively. It is something that you choose to be not known to public. Private may mean it is just between friends, or family, or your girlfriend, and etcetera. Privacy may be of different level especially when we would base it to our profession, popularity, or oneself's proclamation to make her or his whole life be videotaped and let the whole world to see.

I'd like to write about it on the basis of my own choice. I started blogging about my thoughts 2 years ago. It was my decision to write on things that others may not appreciate or give a damn about it. I just write because I wanted to. I felt I needed to write. I personally welcome/d others to judge me on the basis of what I have written in my blog. That if they don't like it they can leave, or leave something behind like a comment. I do not hold one person's thoughts, but when I decide to blog I never thought others can give me bad or negative comment. And with administrative power to not include negative comments from readers, I can decide not to make it public because I know that when that negative comment is published it can create a chain of reaction to some of my friends who would really defend me for they know me. What I mean is, my blog is entirely not patterned to other blogs who merely writes to encourage readers to leave a comment. Like I said, I just felt the need to write. And that need made me want to publish it publicly.

That is me being selective on what I wanted to show readers. But the article that I have read last night was about someone who's a star by his own right because fans/followers put him up there. Everyone is aware that when you decide to be in the movies, you've got to be prepared that your every moved is being followed because those tiny bits and pieces of where you go and who's with you is huge chunk of money for the media. Fans/followers will pay that much just to have that feel that you as the actor and your fan is close like friends (although fans don't care that much that you don't know them personally).

I look at the situation in two ways. My life is nothing compared to this actor's popularity. There's one thing common though. I decided on how my life should be, and so is this actor who decided to accept this role and both of us didn't know what the future has for us. Unlucky for me because I don't earn that much with writing and it is not my craft, and lucky him because with his role he became that popular in months and driving a new car, new apartment and lots of offers.

That decision brought us to common ground that everything starts with simpliest way of saying, "Okay I will do this." So no matter where you are at, and what you've achieved, every decision gave his fans or my readers the chance to talk about his life to others and share it, or in my case the chance for others to comment badly about me.

I think, there is no such thing as privacy. Sooner or later it will come out and you don't have the administrative power to stop it. You can do something to counterreact but it's no use because it is out there in the public for scrutiny. I prefer to call it judgement. Sounds funny but it is true.

As a fan to this actor, if I like him so much the only thing I can do is give him respect. When he want it public then he will say it. When he didn't say anything then, he want to keep it for himself.

Quote: "Your Sex Life is Boring."

I have been blogging for a year and a half now. I have been active with social networking sites. My daily routine would be waking up in the morning checking what happened in the last hours that I have been asleep. When I get to the office I still get online and check again and I would be online for all day long. When I get home I still do come online and check again. Some find it boring and a friend of mine describe my life by comparing it to sex. He said, "Your sex life is boring. If you were not laid last night you are contented with reading sex blogs." I was just like, "Wow! People from other country are really comfortable talking about sex especially with the opposite sex."

The diversity of people from different culture, from different homes, from different believes are meeting online to unintentionaly mention or discuss topics of who they are, how they are brought up and what they believe and etc.

I can be offended with that reaction from someone whom I did not meet personally but in my mind, it was my decision to be online, to create an online profile might as well be open to the fact that for others to say what they need to say and want to say for they thought it was not offensive or insulting. In the long run, I had a better appreciation towards others and how to care about others as well. I have noticed their wanting to be heard but not really insinuating that there response should be done or is correct. It was a simple reaction that needed to be heard. And I, as the one who heard it from him, needed to open my mind to a bigger thinking that life is not described as to what I want it to be. Life is not me but me with others whether online or offline.

It must be easy for my friend to describe my life in terms of "SEX" for one, he is a guy. Second, he must be comfortable with sex than anything else. And it must be the first thing that come out from his mind. Whatever are his reasons are, I should not take it as offensive or insulting. There are two things I do keep in mind that when you are online, you attract friends ,and second you attract enemies.

He made a last comment though because he knew I might be offended. He said, "I may have described it to sex, it does not mean that I am trying to imply that you should have sex because it is fun. No doubt sex is fun and sex is done by two responsible person."

It was pretty obvious that after describing it to sex he was immediately aware that he was not talking to someone like his kind. That he was talking to me. And I just blush.

I Try to Change Me

I had been busy lately. I can not deny that. My life was focused on to saving more so I can gain more. Practically you can see it like investing on a stock. You tend to watch how the stock works and the bullish and the bearish ways that a particular stock can be. Hoping it will always be bullish and would never experienced going down or bearish. The more it is going up the more you think of not stopping it because you are gaining more. Your full attention are at the Bloomberg Channel or the newspapers. You might be good at calculating and predicting what will happen like those in the stock market, you just do not stop.

I was focused to that. I was focused on a straight path to where I want to be and would like to be at in few months or days if possible. I delayed my happiness in the hope to be better at this part of my life. I just totally lost who I was before.

It is not a bad thing to be at. I mean it is part of growing and some things got to changed. But changes in me was drastic. I do not even know if I have missed one meeting with friends, am I answering all their SMS or calls to me, or was I giving them lame excuses. Even if I have time to see them, my body do not seem to be interested in seeing them anymore because I have worked too much and the days that are supposed to be for leisure was spent in bed trying to recover the lost hours of sleep.

My point here is that if I am neglecting my friendship with you or you think I was getting this huge head on top of me and I am blabbing things that you think was not the original me, I am sorry. I also would like to point out that I would really want to grow and part of growing is to change. But if you think I was not changing for the better, an email, or if you know my number, a call will always be an option for you to tell me that I am way too much and it is not healthy.

I admit to be changing a lot. I have let go of my smiling avatar and decided to seldom use my smiling pics because I would want others to see me serious this time. I think that was wrong for me to do because before when I used those smiling pictures it just gave me a reminder everyday that I have to refocus and rethink everything before uttering something or even deciding on things. When I see happy faces it always make me think twice like, am I going to do this to give everyone happiness or just me?

I do believe that whenever you do something you do not only think of what it can give to you but what it can give to others that surrounds you. But when I decided to change, I have pushed that idea away and now I have realized that it was wrong. I have got to change to something better.

Then again I am human and I make mistakes and it is not too late for me to change that. I only have to admit that I made mistake and hopefully learn from that mistake and move on. Always better to admit mistake than not to.

Corporate World

It is a typical day at the University where you go in the classroom because you have a class. Professor talks about the good the bad and the ugly in accordance to what his experience are and what the recommended book says. You were unintentionaly lead to the belief that you will be doing this and that once you work for real. You set your mind into something hypothetical. It is not real at all. It is real for him for they have experienced it whilst the facts that were detailed and taught to us his students.

The funniest is after college. I thought it is easier to put up and manage my own business. If I solely depend on my education, I would be running my business to disaster. Eventually that happened to me. I spent thousands of pesos on to a desktop plublishing business, although I made it to breakeven but to any businessman a breakeven does not mean profit.

It is hard to believe and especially accept that I paid college tiution at a prestigious university only to believe on hypothesis and make myself over confident that I can make it big in the next five years. I have somehow realized that I did that to myself and not my professors or the university I went to. I made the choice and I made the assumptions so I have to blame me. Going back to "hard to believe and especially accept", blaming myself is another example to that.

I am now working butt off, working hard both day and night. I felt I am not paid what I believe, is due to me. Then again I must think I was squeezing my staff because I was literally not earning enough to pay what is due to them. I step back and think again that my professors are right. I just understood them in a different way and that understanding is only to my advantage.

The world where I am now keeps me up to date to what is new. I love it because my body seems to be enjoying it too despite the stress, pressure, body pains, lack of sleep, not eating at the exact time or skipping meals and etcetera.

The corporate world is not always as relaxing as compared to university or college days. Once you are working, you will feel beat up at the end of the day. You will love it when it is pay day. You will slowly see yourself wanting a credit card. You will see yourself wearing branded clothes. You will see yourself buying gadget every Christmas bonus. You will see your shoe rack with shoes that you do not actually need. You will see yourself eating at a fancy restaurant. You will love it, hate it, despise coworker or even your boss. You will feel victory and receive memo for unsatisfactory conduct. And the list goes on.

Boring Life of a Pretentious Lady

Pretending to have this and that would never get you anywhere. Well for some, temporarily they have attained such pedestal but they never stayed there long enough for others to notice them. What do I mean when I say noticed by others is that when you are really that high other people will not forget about you. It don't matter if you've done good or not what matters is when I say your name, others should remember who you are and how you look like.

Living a life of pretending you are someone when you go home and see yourself that you are not is such a big fucking LIE. It is far more better to live to the truth of what you are and what you have than to ever experience the big drop of popularity when one seems to notice and start investigating of who you are really. It'll be the hardest and very painful drop ever in your life.

Happiness is not about getting things in life, it is not about getting what you really want and not about getting all those money. It is more about what you can be to others and how others respond to who you are to you. If by chance you were true and then others won't noticed you today but soon appreciated your honestly as days went on, is the best to have happened to someone who's feet are always on the ground.

It is not easy to get attention and recognition for being honest. It is most likely to be the least of what is being seen by people but it is most likely will lead you to good people and a better life. For if by chance you've lived a lie then it is the worst thing ever and the very difficult thing to ever recover. I am not saying that you can no longer get back to number one, you can but you have to be willing to go through what you have just done. It is difficult to earn the trust back but it will be worth it for you might be earning more friends than ever.

It don't matter what you have, what matter is you're being true. It doesn't matter where you have been or what other changes are there in your life, what matter is that you were happy doing it and that when you go home you would see your self smiling and not thinking of what to lie tomorrow.

When It is Enough

There has been a lot of times when you would just swallow your pride because of different reasons under different circumstances. One can be because you don't see a way out and you thought it was the end of the road, you simply have to go into a small pathway like the needle to be able to get through life's challenges.

When do you say it is enough? Would you rather do it over and over again only because you are into the same situation and you thought it was appropriate?

The obvious thing is that you have been over and over that situation and you did not learn anything from it. You thought life is short and you wanted to live it happy. Then think about this, if you want to live life happy keep your feet grounded. It is not because you have been through life's misery you would now decide to party each night and pretend life blessing would be the same all of your life.

I wish I know how to tell you straightforward and still would not hurt your feelings but dude, grow up. Life is all about you. What you do, what you make out of every minute given to you everyday. If it comes to money, you can always work for it. Don't tell me you can't go to work only because you were not able to finish college. When you were given the chance to go to college did you do well? Did you go to school like you always say you will? Now you're telling me you can't find work. Who's fault is that?

You are actually given another chance now. You can go back to school but of course you're too shy because you're not that young anymore. When you were young did you ever thought of the fact that every morning you are getting older and that you can not just say, I'll just do it tomorrow.

I hope you do get to read this. I wanted to help but you looked at me as if I was making everything worse for you.

Love Won't Lead You Back to Me

It has been 6 months since I last feel this pain in my heart. I thought keeping it in the closet and not digging it up helps but turns out that I am not completely healed by time yet. I have loved him and I still do. There's one thing I have learned so far though, my pain is enormous than the love I have felt for him. This pain is eating me inside out but I was able to contain the pain gradually and now I have never felt happier for my fear to deal with the pain is gone.

I know I always see him online because he's on my Skype list of friends. I have deleted my yahoo account and deleted his name on my Yahoo Messenger list. I don't know exactly how to contact him but I have decided one day to log in to Skype to see how it will all flow. He's there, online, and I said hi. I have noticed there was no anger in my words. I am happy it turned out very well.

Days had passed and I suddenly got a pop out and it was from him asking if we could be friends for life. I didn't know what he meant by that at first but as conversation goes on, he want me back. For a moment there I wanted to go back because I am happy but I can't possibly go back now. I can't be a moron again.

When he dumped me for some stupid idea of claiming others baby as their own just for the sake of getting more money is absurd. It is even more painful to think of what he just told me that he's not going to fight anymore. He said he was an asshole at that time and now that he got his brains back, he want me back. Should I just let it go by me or should I not? I should not. Definitely not. Not because he told me he need me because he love me, I should go back to him. I got my pride. I have a pride that was swallowed because I know he needed some time, but to let 4 months pass by and I have never heard anything from him should be let go? I mean, I waited for months to hear him say, I need you back. He did not even remember my birthday.
There were a lot of lies. I have known that ever since, and no matter how many times I tried to make him tell me the truth he simply don't want to give an answer to my question, in which I just let it be. I love the person but I simply could not go on to this anymore. I am young and smart and I have moved on.

I Had a Dream

It was totally nothing at all. It was just for fun and I didn't expect to be treated like this. Now, I feel guilty because I never started this with enthusiasm nor hope this can bring me something later. I just let it all go with the flow and now I am greatly impressed by how things are turning out to be. The unusual dream for me. My ever relentless dream of becoming someone and be accepted with delight and much eagerness to at least hear my thoughts. I continue to ponder if this is all true, don't want to at least consider this as the adventure to the unknown but somehow I can't seem not to think that this might be another dream and it is not unusual.

How do you ever define the unusual from the usual or ordinary dream?

Scribbling the Thoughts of a Wanderer

I couldn't just let go of this thought I had after reading a chapter tonight. It's 9:35 pm and I'm all ready to go to bed. I got to get my pen and paper, but to no avail, I left my paper clean and rushed to the computer trying to remember all the things this little nomad's brain wants to say.

I was talking to a friend this morning. Although the topic was another person, I couldn't stand not to recall it when I was heading home. I was a little grumpy with my boss, but I choose not to let it in my system for I could have ruined my day as well. I am sure it is really depressing for her that the brochure's lay out was not yet finalized. If I would decide to be grumpy and choose not to smile every time she checks in at me, I could have started the misunderstandings between us too. My friend and I, within a short conversation, led me to thinking that if you were thinking you were born to lose, then you are gonna be a loser for your entire life.

If you think you are beaten, you are beaten so bad. If you think you dare not, you don't. If you'd like to win but you think you can't, it's almost certain that you won't. Life's battles don't always go to the stronger or faster man, but to sooner or later, the man who wins is the man who thinks he can.

I am responsible to what I will become for my destiny in life will never be determined by my complaining spirits. I have no control of life's surprises but I do have control of how to deal with the surprise.

The pessimist complains about the wind.
The optimist expects it to change.
I will adjust the sail.

I have to keep working on my thoughts in life. I am responsible to have a great attitude towards something and to maintain that attitude in anything that comes my way. I don't run on automatic. You can't see no settings in me. Neither there is a setting for you life. Most often, we try to change and control things that we cannot control. It is also too seldom that we choose to control ourselves.

I Feel Good!

This is a follow up with my post yesterday.

I definitely feel good. Someone just visited me today and started talking trash. Wow! That was awesome! I'm thinking it that way because I don't want my day be ruined by someone who's not happy today or a headache to make me frown. I think that what you tell yourself to be will be for the rest of the day. So if I say, I'm upset today and don't mess with me, then I would probably bring that attitude to all that would come to me and talk to me. In the end, you'll look ugly not just because you didn't smile but because they way you approached someone was entirely different from what you were when you were happy. You may not notice it.

This is what I do. I frequently have this headache especially when I am on the computer for 10-12 hours daily and I didn't get enough sleep. Before, if someone is irritating, I would end up upset and mad at that person. But now, I just tell myself, "I have a headache and it's not gonna make me frown." I do feel good after telling myself that.

I don't want to let any negative energy eat me. I don't want negative energy to eat my day as well. I got beautiful mornings everyday. I get hugs from my nephews. I get greetings both online and offline. There are more positive events that happened that are more worthy of what I can give back and what my today can offer. Plus, negative stuff never really get me somewhere. It made me stand out, alone, angry and alone. I've intentionally typed "alone" twice because it is true.

In negativity, you develop a multiple YOU. Having no one with you. A very sad YOU. In positivity, you develop a multiple YOU in how many people are greeting you good morning, and hellos. Say it with me now, I FEEL GOOD.

Optimistic View of Life

I'm not gonna pretend that I know everything but things are happening because this is what I think about how it's going to happen for real. Honestly, I don't do this exercise frequently, I just know that it will because I do believe in myself too much. Sometimes, I detract myself from others for they think of me as insane.

The real thing, I pretty agree with the insane Hunee. In most occasion, I do not like what others are doing but then again I do respect what they think and do for their life. If I continue on to think that it's gonna be a big deal what others think of me, I might grow into frustration and depression and may try to make them think of me the way I want them to be.

My life's joy is more important to me as to what I want in life and how I want to achieve that. First, I would like to have a Macbook. I know I am dreaming, but it wouldn't be that unreasonable to have one. I certainly lack the money for it but I do feel I can get one Macbook later. You can disagree with my thoughts, by the way, you are free to do that. I can not hold you on to what you are thinking. I absolutely think, it is a nice way to relax and refresh my mind through this kind of conversation.

Every day, I feel good. I feel great, actually. I am happy for the mornings. It may be gloomy or sunny or hot at mid day, I don't really mind the heat as long as I have something to wear to cover me. I don't think my optimism is a product of other people or what had happened to me early in the morning, it is more of my choice and that choice simply comes from my heart that I want to be smiling today.

People that I haven't met tells me that I have a big heart. My optimism is infectious, and I am adorable. It is really nice to know that I did that to them. I don't really want to talk about how others think of me, I just won't let that ruin my post today. I am not trying to get them to fell in love with my simple hugs and kisses but I just want them to feel good about themselves too. I think it is the best way to start and end a day with a smile and light feeling in your heart. I think it is more healthy. I think it is more rewarding if it really come from you. Although, the people that I am talking to everyday still have the choice to reject what I am trying to inject to them.

My day will end soon. Another post of optimism tomorrow.

Life is Hard.. Compared to What?

Have you watched the movie, "Bucket List"? I've watched it a couple of times. Always make me cry at the end.

I always wonder why people, like me, work damn hard to get something in life. Most of the time, when we knew that there'll be money involved and we are sure we are gonna be paid for what we've done, we think ahead of buying ourselves pretty clothes or fancy shoes. But when time comes to collect payment, something important came up and well, it needs money too. We seldom don't have a choice but to simply let go of clothes and shoes and say, "Maybe next time."

In everyday, we inclined to things that had happened and we know there'll be continuity to it but we never think of what could be out there, for it is pretty scary to bring our hopes higher than where we are.

It does hurt a lot when you are so determined to achieve these things and do it in the future for we don't hold our future. We might fall, and no one will be there to catch us.

We don't have to live life like a ticking clock. We don't have to live life like it's gonna be the end of it tomorrow. Life is hard but compared to what? Funny question but I think is the truest question there is.

Thoughts from a Wanderer

My blog title is redundant. I know that and I mean that. Who cares anyway. It is mine and you are free to read my blog and comment.

On my best effort to help Twitter Travels to get more funds for travel, this person I know that come from California asked me, "What's Twitter anyway? Who cares about them traveling? You even have a redundant name that doesn't make sense."

He got a point there and I respected that reaction. My blog title has something to do with what I love in life and yet with little resources, I could not do it all for real. That's also one reason why I follow and support two guys who could have heard the same reaction from others. I love to travel. I would like to be a nomad, but until now I am in a city where I am born. I can go to other city but I would go back here because I can't go on traveling without funds. So, I work my butt off everyday to save that money and so that I don't have to beg and ask from others. I love wandering as well. If I am new to this city, you won't see me in one corner of the hotel room and peek outside. I go out, and I don't care if I get lost.

My thoughts; people can only see the title but not the real wandering nomad in me. What if I have the money to travel, others would probably say, "She's wasting money and time." With my blog and my addiction to twitter has a purpose. I get to know people from different cultures and I get a free education from them. If there'll be more, then that's an extra freebie. It maybe a waste of time for you but not for all of you. You know that there is something good that can learned from it. You were just bitter because you haven't done the same thing at all. And if you would do it, you are scared others will laugh and ridicule your work.

I'll continue to be the wandering nomad. Even if you don't like it.

My Earth Hour

I first heard of Earth Hour at Twitter.com.
I can still remember who invited me for Earth Hour at Facebook.com, it was my twitter buddy, Gretchen. Honestly, I don't know anything about it not till I ask some twitter buds. Out of that moment, I suggested to DT (Dailytwitter), what if we ask some twitter friends all over the globe to take one shot of their Earth Hour celebration. We aim to get 10 but sadly because of short noticed, we got 5 pictures from different people.

My very own Earth Hour celebration is to take snap shots of different establishments participating in the said event. Sadly, none of which that are near to where I am turned off their lights for Earth Hour. My date is also an airhead which made my whole evening useless and unproductive.

If I could have known earlier then I would have prepared for it very well. It's not my event though, it is just that some people never care anymore. I can't just say the whole Davao did not participate, that would be unfair for those who silently celebrated Earth Hour in their individual homes.

I hope one day when there will be a worldwide event like this and we all know it does not consume much of our energy and time, I do hope we contribute somehow. I mean, this is for the earth we are living in.

Sticking to the Budget

The story starts from applying for a job. After a couple of job interviews, you're HIRED! Oooohhh, yeah. Enjoys your starting salary for you are a single, and since you are single, you spend like from left to right. You thought your salary is big enough for a single person. After a small chit chat with yourself, you told yourself that the 30th of the month is coming up so you will just borrow money from friends and pay them on pay day. Sounds perfect!

Tell me who among you are actually doing it because you deserve a high five? Some may tell me now, "I did that last month."

I know it's hard to do the new year's resolution of sticking to the budget and save. I know that this post is easier said than done. This happens to me too. So that's explains we are human.

In the past 4 months, I tried this simple ways to stick to my budget.

1. I don't do groceries. Whenever my friend would go to the grocery store, I list down what I need and then put a price at the right corner, add them all and just give him the money. If ever the money is not enough, I told him not to buy the last item at the bottom. First on the list are always the priority for I need those items.

2. I sold my car long time ago and I learn to appreciate riding public utility vehicles. It saves a lot of money.

3. Bring your own food for lunch. Or if you eat out, learn to eat veggies and fruits only. No rice please.

4. Don't watch TV commercials.

5. Don't go for window shopping or even go to the malls to eat.

6. Treat yourself on pay day. Only buy those what you really need.

7. Love yourself. It is for your own good.

I will not tell you I was 100% obedient to this cycle but if you will take a look at my bank statement, I guess I was because I see the big difference now.

One last tip, don't make your bank statement fool you. This time you have to be a great actor of pretending your savings are not improving. It will help you not to withdraw some money.

Computer Mediated Communication

It is the "in-thing". I don't know of anyone that does not know of what computer is. Amazing it is to see younger generation be exposed to computers so much and yet, they are also exposed to what I call "Bad Elements" in the internet. In return, the ability for a human being to react to what is real is somehow not being applied to computer mediated communications.

My love for computers started with Lotus application. Then there's hangman. There's Mario Teaches Typing. Then Yahoo Mail is there. Bill Gates as a millionaire because of Microsoft. There's Hotmail and so many other sites. Chat rooms are available to talk to someone on any place on the planet (I guess only to those with computers). Then there are social networking sites for us on the Web 2.0. No doubt, every time there is a new site it either give us what we want or it gives us headache.

Almost all of us who spend more than 8 hours in front of the computer knows what a chat room can do for us and what a chat room can do against us. The benefits can be are the following.

1. Teaches me to type fast.
2. Learn English the easiest way.
3. Able to know what the culture of this and that country.
4. Able to exchange ideas about anything.
5. ( and more if you may want to add)

While this are the disadvantages.

1. Pedophiles take advantage of younger kids. (It's a fact!)
2. You could not determine emotions whether he or she was angry or not. As humans, we normally read what's between the line and it is where miscommunication started.
3. Carpal Tunnel Syndrome. It is a medical condition where a nerve is compressed at the wrist leading to pain.
4. (Other things need not be mentioned)

In my case, I spend more than 12 hours in front of the computer. If there is a gym buff, I am a computer+internet buff. I am a very chatty person and indeed my speed in typing is quite fast. Since, social networking sites are available, I don't spend time in public chat rooms anymore. Normally, when I talk to this person for like 3-5 consecutive days, miscommunication begins. I don't blame the other to misunderstood me and no matter how many times I try to rephrase what I said to be understood the most humane way possible, I still get misinterpreted or vice versa. Still, it is a computer mediated communication and the more talk the more mistake. It is like, I am trying to explain and it is still not clear to the other end, and the more I try to explain the bigger the hole of misunderstanding.

Since I get to experience that first hand, I would like to advice a actual social gathering, meet person to person, and use the e-social gathering, meet cam to cam or mic to mic. It has to be balanced for if not, you might lose a friend that might be a lifetime to keep.

If it is not clear to you then ask and vice versa.

My Unholy Holy Week

Holy Week started with Palm Sunday. If you are able to remember the history, Palm Sunday or the Passion of Sunday, is the entrance of Jesus to Jerusalem. Then there's Maundy Thursday, which is the institution of Communion and the betrayal of Judas. This is the memorable washing of the feet. Then there is Good Friday, the day Jesus died. Black Saturday is the day Jesus rested in his grave. And Easter Sunday, time for Christians to celebrate the resurrection of Christ.

I spent my Holy Week at home with my Auntie, and two nephews with their Nannies. Talked to my dear friend Myrna for it is her birthday. Talked to someone special too over Yahoo Messenger. Read some books and watched Disney Channel 24 hours. Not to mention I did some thinking about my life. It is not your typical Holy Week isn't it? My unholy Holy Week indeed.

I don't think Holy Week is the only time to contemplate and ask for forgiveness. There maybe some of you who would think it is time to ask for forgiveness and be forgiven. I do believe that forgiving someone is not about waiting for the right time. It can be any day, as long as you know you have to forgive and you know when to ask forgiveness. Besides, Holy Week isn't all that. It is the time to think about your life too. I guess, forgiving doesn't only start with saying sorry to someone, also starts with reflecting what you did to yourself. In my past, my Theology teacher always tells us, "Christ lives in us." I guess, every time I hurt myself is also the time that I hurt others. I should acknowledge that part first before I can start forgiving those who have hurt me in return.

Social Media Etiquette

It wasn't easy to maintain what you are to other people you've met online. I must say this, I am having a hard time to mingle with people online. I go online and talk online because I love to blah blah. I talk, I write, I comment and I suggest. I may be too late for others are ahead of me but I am taking it slow only because I don't want to hamper myself with too much information that might get my head bigger than my body can actually handle. I don't want to be pretending I know everything in the world of Web 2.0.

I honestly love my profile online. Some people come and others go. It is simple. If once I deal with these people and if it offended them, they will stop dealing with me. I simply could not please everyone. Although it is sad to see someone leave, on the contrary, it opens the door to new meetings. Some may have stopped dealing with me but it does not mean that I close the door and barred the hallway to not see and meet them again.

In social media, I started as a person who would do a shout out on to anything. I got myself as a subject of a university gossip. I don't even call it gossip, I just want to yell out my idea and I didn't mean to be rude about my suggestion nor the idea ever give rudeness character to the person concerned. I found myself talking about other people just to get attention to my posts. I join this and that to earn. Now, I admit, that was definitely a wrong path to go to. Although it will not stop me from writing anything, I just need to be careful with what I write.

I am aware that there is no such thing as social media etiquette. I am aware that I know when to react and give blunt comments. I am also aware not to be easily involve with anything that is likely to be a war between who said it first or not. I might find myself in the middle of the crossfire and the situation maybe the fastest way to lose the benefits I got with social media.

Pot of Flower as the Ashtray

Nature is beautiful, but it is what we do to them that makes them ugly.