It is that time of the year where LOVE is the main subject thus giving people smiles and blushes the whole day. Long kisses and sex later at night. Yes, it is Valentine's Day, the day of love for the whole world.
How many times have you fallen in and out of love? For me, I have fallen a couple of times. Fallen out of love a couple times as well. Reading a lot of fairy tales made me think of what an ideal man for me. But I was hurt by my past experience, it got me to thinking that loving someone or giving love to someone aren't taught in books or any thing that is written but they are found by really letting yourself fall in love and fall out of love and be hurt.
I am pretty sure you will not agree with me and you could say your mother knows better, but the nuggets of these learnings are taken from the act of an individual to be involve, in love, with another person.
Here are some things I personally learned from falling in love.
1. Always communicate. Never miss a day without telling the person you love what you feel about him or her. Take the initiative to get the ball rolling.
2. Negative thoughts about him or her always brings your relationship down. It is natural for a person to react but contain your emotions. It is a better way to start talking.
3. Enjoy each others company. If you don't enjoy the moments that you are together, it will be a boring relationship.
4. Money brings happiness so does it creates a big problem. Learn to share. Do pay some of the expenses especially when you are watching movies.
5. Kiss and saying I love you. If you don't love the person then why do want to get near him or her? Why do you always call him or her? Why do you want to his or her company?
I know it hurts a lot when you tried your best and broke up in the end. It is better to have loved than not to have loved at all.
13.2.08
They've asked me, "Why do you smile always?"
In the first 15 years of my life, I am the snob type of person. I thought my family is ok and we are surviving even more than the average family that lived in this small country. Contrary to my beliefs, my parents are both working for my future as well as three other siblings in my family. I was enrolled to a private school in my grade school years and in a all girls school in high school years. Being in the crowd of people who's family really deserve to be called rich, I consider my family as one of them. But my family is better for Dad will be home during dinner and Mom would make breakfast and dinner for all of us. We would be all seated on the table when 7am or 7pm strikes. No one explained to me the real situation, maybe because I am still young. I will soon be graduating in high school when I found out that life was the other side of the coin. Both parents worked hard because they got to be and to be able to feed us all four.
When Mom decided to work abroad, leaving me, the eldest to lead and start doing what she has been doing as a mother. Few months after, she died. I woke up from the truth. And I've realized that it is not too late for me to win the game of life.
I was once knocked down but I will try not to be knocked down again. I will try to discover what the other side of life has for me. I live my life like a coin. I maybe seeing one side of the coin, but I would not like to pass on what the other side of the coin has for me. It can be good or bad but I know, neither of them sides are all bad or good. I maybe in a bad situation now, that only means the other side is good so it gives me a chance to make better my situation and that gives me smiles on my face.
They've asked me, "Why do you smile always?"
I said, " I smile always because if I would let myself frown it only means I'm defeated." Life, like they always say it, is a challenge. And challenges are battles to win. Smiling is actually one way of intimidating life.
When Mom decided to work abroad, leaving me, the eldest to lead and start doing what she has been doing as a mother. Few months after, she died. I woke up from the truth. And I've realized that it is not too late for me to win the game of life.
I was once knocked down but I will try not to be knocked down again. I will try to discover what the other side of life has for me. I live my life like a coin. I maybe seeing one side of the coin, but I would not like to pass on what the other side of the coin has for me. It can be good or bad but I know, neither of them sides are all bad or good. I maybe in a bad situation now, that only means the other side is good so it gives me a chance to make better my situation and that gives me smiles on my face.
They've asked me, "Why do you smile always?"
I said, " I smile always because if I would let myself frown it only means I'm defeated." Life, like they always say it, is a challenge. And challenges are battles to win. Smiling is actually one way of intimidating life.
Smile tho' your heart is aching,
Smile even tho' it's breaking,
When there are clouds in the sky
You'll get by,
If you smile
thro' your fear and sorrow,
Smile and maybe tomorrow,
You'll see the sun come shin-ing thro' for you
Light up your face with gladness,
Hide ev-'ry trace of sadness,
Al -'tho a tear may be ever so near,
That's the time,
You must keep on trying,
Smile, what's the use of crying,
You'll find that life is still worth-while,
If you just smile...
Epilogue: The Different Kind of Love Story
February is always associated with loving couple cuddling each other endlessly and wishing the night of February 14 would never end.
Leaders love their followers is another kind of love story. The employer loves her employees because the company sales is going up and this is another kind of love story. One thing I know is that the difference between playing to win and playing not to lose is the difference between success and mediocrity.
A leader can be successful if he has made the right change and thus get the smaller part of credits, but if things didn't worked out, would get the greater part of blame. Also goes the same way for the employers.
The love story that I am talking about here is the love story between you and your inner being. The main point is, you can not love someone unless you love yourself first. Neither a leader can be a leader when he or she is not leading himself or herself.
Let us start giving to ourself first before we start giving to others. And before February 14 comes, give yourself a break and share something to yourself too.
Leaders love their followers is another kind of love story. The employer loves her employees because the company sales is going up and this is another kind of love story. One thing I know is that the difference between playing to win and playing not to lose is the difference between success and mediocrity.
A leader can be successful if he has made the right change and thus get the smaller part of credits, but if things didn't worked out, would get the greater part of blame. Also goes the same way for the employers.
The love story that I am talking about here is the love story between you and your inner being. The main point is, you can not love someone unless you love yourself first. Neither a leader can be a leader when he or she is not leading himself or herself.
Let us start giving to ourself first before we start giving to others. And before February 14 comes, give yourself a break and share something to yourself too.
12.2.08
Tragic February Valentine Story
I have been mad about what happened to my love life. There is no greater sorrow for this husband his wife died in his arms during the Greek song that means "Love Me" is playing.
Kim Sjostrom died of heart disease.
Kim Sjostrom died of heart disease.
For me it was like any other celebrity weddings but not based on how expensive the wedding is but how the wedding had became a project at Davie Elementary School, where Sjostrom taught first grade. Friends provided the wedding gown, the flowers and decorations.
Isn't it sweet when your love ones and friends are there to help you with the wedding. Not just helping but providing you with some of the wedding things you needed.
The couple where dancing, when Kim complained of being lightheaded. Teddy, the husband, thought Kim, a diabetic, needed sugar. But she collapsed. The nearby hospital were unable to revive her.9.2.08
Me and My Big Mouth
Was there ever a situation when you are trying to impress someone and you sounded like stupid in front of that person?
Just wanted to tell you this but alright it is none of your business. Fuck! Me and my big mouth.....
Hahahaha.....
Just wanted to tell you this but alright it is none of your business. Fuck! Me and my big mouth.....
Hahahaha.....
7.2.08
No Other Way
There had been many times when you tried to do something and yet there is no progress and you felt like giving up.
You have too much confidence that you can do this. No matter how many times you tried and others keep on saying you have to let it go, still you hang on to it and still tried to do it despite the fact that there is no support from the others. You tell yourself, I can do this....I can and I will.
No doubt you can do things beyond your expectations but you, me and them are humans and we are not perfect. There may be times that we were able to do things and made us feel we are a hero. But it will never happen all the time. There will be times and you know that this time, you can not do it.
There is no other way but to quit. Truly, it is heartbreaking when you decide to quit but it is more noble to be able to quit now than try doing it again and again. You will never know you will be able to accomplish it in the future. You might just need more time to study and think and maybe go to the basic.
You have too much confidence that you can do this. No matter how many times you tried and others keep on saying you have to let it go, still you hang on to it and still tried to do it despite the fact that there is no support from the others. You tell yourself, I can do this....I can and I will.
No doubt you can do things beyond your expectations but you, me and them are humans and we are not perfect. There may be times that we were able to do things and made us feel we are a hero. But it will never happen all the time. There will be times and you know that this time, you can not do it.
There is no other way but to quit. Truly, it is heartbreaking when you decide to quit but it is more noble to be able to quit now than try doing it again and again. You will never know you will be able to accomplish it in the future. You might just need more time to study and think and maybe go to the basic.
6.2.08
February Love
Enormous when you feel it. You feel flying when you are in it. You are blooming everyday. Your mornings are like one new day to celebrate.
The never ending promise of being in love. So good when you have someone to give love to. You never thought you can do this for him or her. Red roses, chocolates, kisses and "I love you" are always present during this time of the year. The February Love where most couples celebrate an intimate and passionate time for themselves.
Hotel rooms are booked. Flower prices goes up. Chocolates are everywhere. Red is the color of the month.
Does anyone know that the color red means hot, can increase the rate of respiration and raising blood pressure. When we see color red, by culture, it means power. When we use red, it grabs attention and to get people to take action. No wonder Red is worn during Chinese New Year.
(Hmmmm...I should wear red everyday.)
The never ending promise of being in love. So good when you have someone to give love to. You never thought you can do this for him or her. Red roses, chocolates, kisses and "I love you" are always present during this time of the year. The February Love where most couples celebrate an intimate and passionate time for themselves.
Hotel rooms are booked. Flower prices goes up. Chocolates are everywhere. Red is the color of the month.
Does anyone know that the color red means hot, can increase the rate of respiration and raising blood pressure. When we see color red, by culture, it means power. When we use red, it grabs attention and to get people to take action. No wonder Red is worn during Chinese New Year.
(Hmmmm...I should wear red everyday.)
4.2.08
Time to Change
Everyone desires to change the world but no one would want to start the change within themselves. It is ironic for one to change the world if he can't change himself.
Changes can be seen as either revolutionary (something totally different from what has been) and evolutionary (a refinement from what has been). It is usually easy to accept change as a simple refinement from what is usually done than to accept an entirely different or new changes.
Most of us don't want to change because change may mean personal loss and change requires additional commitment. Often it is describe like this joke: "How many people does it change a light bulb?" Answer. "Four. One to change the light bulb and three to think of how good the old light bulb was."
The same thing happen to us who would think of the past than to move on and make change. There is no change that is so easy to do but when we are all convince to change we slowly adapt and when we are all doing it, we didn't realize that there is something else to do. We got stuck at what we usually do. Even some of us, during job interviews says, "I don't like a routine job." But when you are in that job for 2 years you seemed to like what your doing. Funny but true.
Is it time to change? When do we need to change? What should be changed?
To quote:
Changes can be seen as either revolutionary (something totally different from what has been) and evolutionary (a refinement from what has been). It is usually easy to accept change as a simple refinement from what is usually done than to accept an entirely different or new changes.
Most of us don't want to change because change may mean personal loss and change requires additional commitment. Often it is describe like this joke: "How many people does it change a light bulb?" Answer. "Four. One to change the light bulb and three to think of how good the old light bulb was."
The same thing happen to us who would think of the past than to move on and make change. There is no change that is so easy to do but when we are all convince to change we slowly adapt and when we are all doing it, we didn't realize that there is something else to do. We got stuck at what we usually do. Even some of us, during job interviews says, "I don't like a routine job." But when you are in that job for 2 years you seemed to like what your doing. Funny but true.
Is it time to change? When do we need to change? What should be changed?
To quote:
The wrong decision at the wrong time = DISASTER.
The wrong decision at the right time = MISTAKE.
The right decision at the wrong time = UNACCEPTANCE.
The right decision at the right time = SUCCESS.
- John Maxwell, The Winning Attitude
Getting Over You
My space was doing fine when you were not yet part of it. My space was gloomy and laughter is louder now than before. I was not looking for it but it came and entered the space I have been trying to protect from strangers like you. And I welcomed a stranger.
It was indeed a beautiful experience. I have sailed the sea wherein I fall, I cried, I laughed, I was broken hearted and now I am getting over you. Funny thing is that I smile every time I see something that reminds me of you. I definitely can say, I have moved on.
It is better to have loved and lost than to never loved at all. At least I was honest, and I hope you are too. If you're not, you will get to experience guilt and it may lead to heart attack. (I say, Good Luck!)
My sentiments for this heartache will stop. It will start by the time I posted this.
It was indeed a beautiful experience. I have sailed the sea wherein I fall, I cried, I laughed, I was broken hearted and now I am getting over you. Funny thing is that I smile every time I see something that reminds me of you. I definitely can say, I have moved on.
It is better to have loved and lost than to never loved at all. At least I was honest, and I hope you are too. If you're not, you will get to experience guilt and it may lead to heart attack. (I say, Good Luck!)
My sentiments for this heartache will stop. It will start by the time I posted this.
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